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Stop Blaming And Start Loving Yourself


Self- love is the most precious gift you can ever give to yourself. Here are a few ways to show yourself some love:

Stop negative self-talk: Pay heed to your internal monologue. And whenever you feel it shifting into criticism of your relationships, your actions, your choices, your body, try to stop. It takes some time to truly overcome negative self-talk, so begin by just making yourself aware of it. How often are you berating yourself? Could you do it less? Give it a go.

Acknowledge your success: Before you go to bed each night, think back on your day. What stood out as something that you did well, that felt great, that was a major or minor success? Did you kick ass at a presentation or did you close a deal? Did you put together a fantastic outfit? Did you spend quality time with your kids? Some days this will feel more challenging than others, but keep at it. Even if the day’s success seems small, acknowledge it. And give yourself credit for it. You did it. You succeeded today.

Speak to the mirror: It’s an Old Chestnut. But I recommend it because it WORKS, guys. Before you begin your day in earnest, look in the mirror. Say good things about your body out loud while looking at your reflection. Say, “I have lustrous hair.” Say, “I have kind and welcoming eyes.” Say, “I have strong powerful legs.” Try to think of something new each day. You may run out, so feel free to recycle. Just try it. It’s amazing.

Forgive yourself quickly: We are all our own worst critics. Next time you “mess up” and fall down a self-hatred spree, listen to how you are talking to and about yourself. Would you talk in the same tone with your mother? Partner? Sister? Best friend? If not, why are you saying them to yourself? Everyone stumbles, and it is essential to learn from mistakes. But focus on the learning and forgiving, and try to move away from self-loathing, blame and shame.

Praise a lot: In my experience, praise is returned by praise. Giving praise to friends, family members, colleagues and even strangers creates a conducive environment to positivity. Pay a compliment to someone—for a moment of bravery, a good decision, an action, a choice—-and you will be surprised at how quickly that praise come back to you. How is this going to help you in Self-Love thingy? Simple, receiving compliments can be very encouraging for your self-confidence that leads to self-love. But on a subtler level, when you dish out praise to others you are acknowledging the fact that the successes of others bring you joy. You are not buying into the myth that there is a limited amount of beauty, success, or happiness available in the world. You are creating abundance for yourself and others. And that feels at once liberating and secure.

There are countless ways to love yourself. These are just a few to begin with. Good luck.

Stay healthy!

How To Cope With Spiritual Anxiety

Everyone feels nervous or anxious sometimes. Following are some suggestions that can help you calm down emotional upsets. Calming spirit can be achieved by noticing the imbalances in your mind and body and bring them back into balance through changing your thought process and the subsequent actions.


1) Quiet your breathing

Notice changes in your breathing- Stress can cause over-breathing. Calm any fast paced breaths, with slow and steady breaths. Doing meditation is a good preventive method to ease up anxieties and also helps to maintain healthy breathing.

2) Pamper yourself

Pamper your mind , body and spirit- Remove yourself from the chaos and give yourself some quality alone time. Lock yourself in the bedroom and take that much needed soak in the tub. A bubble bath is your ticket to serenity. Enjoining a rejuvenating soak is just one of several ways you can pamper yourself. Try curling up on the sofa and reading an entertaining novel or taking a solitary walk in the park.

3) Give your mind a time out

Clear your mind from troubling thoughts- Any time you are suffering mentally or are feeling anxious it is helpful to temporarily clear your mind of all thoughts that are upsetting you. It is simply not healthy to focus on your problems 24/7. Guided visualizations are superb mental escapes that can help you to switch your focus away from anything that is bothering you. Imagine yourself in a dream sequence where you are relax. Choose garden path, desert oasis or an ocean view.

4) Create Boundaries

Keep Your Distance from Others- You may require to step back and create some distance between yourself and anyone who is making you feel anxious. It is vital to have some Me-time when feeling anxious so that you are able to gather your energies and contemplate a better response to the anxious situation.

5) Nurture Your Inner Child

Be a Loving Parent to Your Inner Child- Oftentimes when we, as adults, are experiencing situations that make us feel powerless or anxious our thoughts will turn to memories from our childhoods when we experienced loneliness or fear. When children feel helpless and small they look to parents for protection. Take a moment to be a loving and caring parent to your inner child. Let him (or her) know that you will get the two of you through the rough time. Give yourself a hug. Don’t feel stupid. You know you want to, go ahead, just do it.

6) Slow Down Your Responses

Get your ducks in a row before reacting- Most of us have made mistake of being reactive at one time or another, without putting facts in line. When the world seem to get you down and you feel like lashing out immediately- Wait! Don’t react. You will better handle a trying situation in a calmer state, and come to a resolution sooner if you take time to fully assess the situation. Get all your ducks in a row before you decide on a response.

7) Stop That Self-Critical Voice

Stop That Critical Voice inside Your Head- Disappointingly, we can be our own worst enemies. Don’t criticize yourself for falling short or not being able to meet your goals in some way or the other. You are doing the best you can. Just calm down. Refuse to listen to that critical voice inside your head that says you are not good enough. Resolve to transform any nagging words into praise for things that you have accomplished. You are just fine. Affirm yourself daily. You are PERFECT!

Lean on Somebody

It is fine to seek help- Doing everything alone can make you feel anxious, plus exhausted. Seek out that soft shoulder to lean on and give yourself a rest.

9) Take a Spiritual Treat

Take a spiritual treat- Taking a half hour bubble bath each evening or taking sometime out of your hectic day for a mental calmness are great stress relievers. But they are not going to be sufficient for calming those severe anxieties that are slowly killing you inside. Everyone requires a change of pace to help bring balance to their lives. You may require to take an extended vacation from work, etc. After a spiritual retreat you will be back home, more readily able to face your daily stresses.

Stay healthy!